I
was asked by a mother at one of our
training events what to do about her 19-year-old teenage son who
had turned away from God.
I asked her to explain and describe what
she meant by that. The first thing I
remember her saying is that he will not attend church. I
immediately said to her, "l would not necessarily equate not
attending church with turning his back on God."
That statement was a new concept for her to think about.
This book by Julia Duin, religious
editor for the Washington limes, offers some insights to my
response to the mother. Duin is well known for her religious
journalism. the winner of many awards, knowledgeable of the
contemporary church scene, and a seminary graduate with a master's
degree in religion.
I
told some friends and seminary faculty
recently that this book should be required reading, with time
provided to work through with the
students what the book is all about. Drawing from her own
experience, Duin listens to others and realizes something is going
on today in Christianity that should concern us. especially
leaders in the church about why so many
people who profess to love the Lord and
have a hunger for His Word are actually leaving church, at least
the traditional church as
we have known it.
Duin is no stranger to the Reformed faith and the
PCA. She has visited L'Abri and speaks
positively about Francis Schaeffer's ministry. Nancy Pearcey,
author of Total Truth (which
we have recommended and used in teaching
for the past three years), said of this book: "We have come
to expect solid journalism from veteran religion reporter Julia
Duin, and Quitting Church does not
disappoint. Churches need to address the seasoned churchgoer who
wants more, not less, out of worship."
Would you believe with all that is going on in the
church today regarding pop culture, diversified worship, and story
telling in place of expository preaching, that among the reasons
Duin has found for people leaving church is that they are looking
for more not less in worship, teaching, and fellowship? fn the
larger churches people often are not known and their needs not
met. Both single men and women are leaving church because the
teaching does not offer them a substantive challenge nor does the
worship give them a participant's role. She tells of one church
she visited where the music was so loud she observed that people
were not singing because of the volume.
She also deals with the problems singles are
having in finding a church where they are accepted, helped in
developing meaningful relationships, and assisted in finding a
spouse. Teaching that doesn't connect with people in their daily
lives and not having a place to use their gifts and feel they are
making a contribution are among issues referenced in this book.
I
was amazed at some
well known Christian people who have left church. What are
they doing? Some have quit altogether and said
"I can get more on my own~ while
others have started their own family worship. and many have become
involved in the growing house church movements. Others are
claiming to get their spiritual nourishment off the internet.
Obviously. Duin is quite aware of the
PCA and what is or is not happening in our
denomination. Some of her remarks are encouraging and others are
challenging to those of us in leadership positions. However, one
of the important points you will glean as you read this book is
that you do not keep people by dumbing down worship or teaching;
but how to retain people must be looked at very carefully, lest in
trying to minister to the culture one becomes that
very culture.
She addresses a number of reasons why she has
found this trend to be taking place. I'lI mention a few that might
get your attention. One is that the church is not giving people a
reason for being there. Pastors, especially in larger churches are
so professional that they cannot pastor the people. Some single
women who need pastoral care are not able to find it because some
will not meet with single women and others are too busy for such
activities. People are not being spiritually fed, cared for, or
given an opportunity to serve. What's the solution? Coffee house
type churches? House churches? Internet community worship? Or
nothing at all?
Duin writes, "Although the 'emergent church'
movement is a huge mixed bag of theologies that usually attracts
the young...conservative and liberal alike are adopting the term
emergent to describe themselves, so it's safe to say these
congregations are a nee generation of churches that are works in
progress." People are either trying to
reinvent the church or abandon it altogether.
Pastors, read this book and get your leaders to
read it and discuss it. The church is in crisis today in America,
and you will be reminded of this as you read and discuss
Quitting Church.